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Easing into Things

Way, way too many things have been going on in my actual real life. Not all of the things are bad (though most are) but still, they are Things and there are wayyy too many of them at the moment.

Even when they kind of slow down, I’m finally able to stop and take a breath only to realize I am coming down with something.

While I haven’t been writing or posting, I have been working on some things for this little corner of the Internet.

But right now I am not in a huge rush to get to it.

One of the few good things that have happened recently was finally getting an ADHD diagnosis and starting treatment. It’s been successful but I find that just learning how to function like an actual adult in ways I didn’t know most people actually do is in and of itself quite a task. A fascinating and enjoyable one (mostly) but a time and energy-consuming one for sure. Interrogating and exploring how I interact with my world, community, and immediate surroundings in a way I never have before is taxing.

A few months ago, the guilt of not being “productive” or meeting arbitrary goals would devour me from the inside. The guilt would then fester all the while my brain was spinning, coming up with a million ideas and mentally reorganizing everything in my life with no ability to execute any of it. It’s incredibly frustrating to basically be stuck in your own mind with no way out.

That’s changing, slowly but surely. But right now I’m mostly enjoying experiencing life with a shred of executive function, connecting my mind and body more often, and just learning how I approach and interact with new and old situations now.

I don’t put any of that pressure on myself anymore, not right now. It’s a lot like learning how to walk again but I’m much more fascinated than intimidated by it. And so that’s primarily my focus.

So what does this all have to do with the deliciously deviant stuff I do around here?

Well…

Things are coming. I’ve finally been able to start putting some things together I’ve wanted to do for years. I’m ready to start talking about some things that I can only say here in this space. And most importantly, I’m working on a fuck ton (official unit of measurement) of stories and other goodies that I can’t wait for everyone to read.

But I’m not in a rush. In a perfect world, I could get these things all done before the end of the year but time is a construct and it doesn’t matter.

I’m going to be closing commissions soon, definitely through the end of the year at least. When I reopen them, they will be restructured.

I’m working on some site and content management-type things. Nothing wild, just new for me and hopefully accessible for you.

I recently shared some previews of projects I’m working on and those, most importantly, will get finished (plus all the ones I didn’t mention 🙂

It’s all coming but it’ll get here eventually. When it’s time.

    Happy New Year! I have a question for you

    So… it’s been almost three months since I posted something here. It’s not for a lack of content and ideas (I have plenty of drafts awaiting further writing or revision). To keep a very long story short is that I’m quite confident that I have ADHD and I’m on the path to getting a diagnosis. It just explains so much about things.

    In the meantime, however, I’ve been enacting some things to help better manage my focus and productivity a bit that have been mostly working out. So while I’m getting all that arranged, I’d like to ask you what are some things you’d like to see here? Specific fat-kink-related topics you’d like discussed? Advice columns? Q&As? Whatever?

    Keep in mind I do have some things in the works but I’d still love to hear your thoughts! Feel free to sound off below or reach out to me on Feabie or FF.

    Thank you for reading my post today! If you enjoyed it, you may also be interested in my erotica or even a commission.

    What’s coming in August…

    I’ve been rather busy with, as Officer Friendly Rark Grames says: stuff and thangs. You know the usual: work, pandemic, existential dread…

    Anyway. So! Here is a quick list of what is going to go down, hopefully, during the month of August:

    • Feedee survey result discussions (expect several)
    • A new story!
    • Some more feminist ranty goodness from me 🙂 I don’t want to quite give it away just yet, but my list of blog topics and outlines are burgeoning more than waistbands at Thanksgiving bash.

    And most importantly…

    I’m doing a story giveaway!

    Basically yeah, it’s totally a grab to get more blog subscribers (so I don’t have to run a mailing list) and keep my titles ranking on Amazon. I am working on getting Smashwords and other markets ready but formatting is a bitch and I hate it, that’s really the thing holding that up. But the upside is that if you do that, you might get a chance to basically get a free commission from me! That’s pretty awesome, right? Right!

    If everything goes well I could very well do these more often!

    While I was developing this giveaway, I unfortunately found out that the Jetpack blog subscription doo-hickey does not work at all with Gmail users. At. All. So I will be replacing it until WordPress can figure it out and fix it. It sucks and I’m not happy about it but that’s the way it goes. So if you subscribe to the blog using gmail, I have to manually add you and then you have to activate the invitation. This would not be an issue so much if it was, say, Yahoo causing the problems… but Gmail? Ugh.

    If you subscribed to the blog using gmail and never got a confirmation, please submit again here and I’ll send you the confirmation again. Sorry 😦

    Expanding The Market Horizons…

    So as you may be aware I recently held a sale over on Amazon and at the time I indicated that it’s unlikely I would hold one again in the future.

    This is because I had my titles previously enrolled in KDP Select. If you’re not familiar, this basically just means that my ebooks were exclusive to the Kindle platform. I did this simply for ease and efficiency.

    One of the problems I fell into was not consistently publishing though; as you can see, I currently only have five titles published. There are more on the way but I have not been good about writing consistently because I manage two other mainstream pennames, all with inconsistent results.

    However, I’ve decided to pull my titles from KDP Select so I can go wide on the market which would make the stories much more accessible to you as a reader. Here are some things I have brewing in order of priority:

    • Launching current and future titles on Smashwords and/or Draft2Digital for wide distribution
    • Publishing a new title or installment every other week until I reach a specific goal
    • Upgrading my website to include an ebookstore
    • Launching a Patreon

    I don’t have the audience yet to really justify the site upgrade (a few hundred dollars) or the Patreon but it’s a goal for later this year or sometime next.

    In mid-June, when my KDP Select obligations expire, there will be a lot more coming forth on that front!

    A new look for an old hat: Introduction

    I’m a 30-something queer woman who has been in this community for many years. So many times I have said to myself that I want to start a place on the internet for us into feedism, weight gain, fatness, chubsters, BBW, BHM, BBNBL*, expansion—whatever or however many of your flavors that apply here—and have it be a truly safe space.

    I don’t have the money or resources to create a place like that just yet, but the dream is always still alive! For now though, I can just carve out a little corner of the internet for me to spout off.

    The impetus for finally establishing a dot-com for myself was an unexpected-but-oft-daydreamed nosedive into writing erotic fiction semi-professionally (hopefully fully professional and full-time: buy my stuff!).

    In my day-to-day non-kinky life I am a writer, albeit a struggling one between day-jobs. I have minor success in that world but… why not do something fun, titillating, and enriching? Especially right now at the tail end of 2020, the year that was and wasn’t.

    You’re never going to see a face pic of me here. It’s just not going to happen. I am verified at Fantasy Feeder and have profiles on several hangouts of feedists and expansionists with quite a length of longevity that I take pride in. If we become friends I’ll be happy to show you as well but don’t hold your breath.

    Anyway, here’s what you can expect from this place right now:

    Blogs and discussions about feedism and expansionism that revolve around but not limited to:

    • Feminism (including masculinity; positive and negative for both)
    • Sexuality (spoiler alert: I’m unapologetically queer)
    • Body positivity—the real stuff
    • Kink; consent; and social responsibility around it all
    • Personal experiences
    • And obviously… book updates and releases.

    In short, this is going to be an affirmative space. I can’t promise I won’t make mistakes but I will do my best to avoid them and listen carefully to others’ experiences.

    I’m actually rather excited to get started on this! I’ve already got three titles out and have several more in the pipeline that will be pushed out in short order.

    So: welcome! Thank you for visiting. If you have a few bucks, I’d greatly appreciate a book sale or at least a follow of my blog so you can keep abreast of new publications, sales, and blog updates.

    *I came up with this on the spot for “Big Beautiful Non-Binary Lovelies” – if you prefer another term please let me know!